Male Bridesmaid: Yay or Nay?

by Kristin Hull | February 23, 2011

Photo courtesy of Molly Tuttle.

dallas wedding, dallas bridal, bridal dallas, wedding in dallasThanks to Kristin Shepelwich, one of the owners of AK Event Design, for answering this week’s reader question.

Can I have a male bridesmaid? If so, what should he wear?

“Of course you can have a male bridesmaid!  We’ve experienced this (as well as females being on the groomsmen side) a few times over the past 8 years of planning weddings.   We always get a little excited when a bride says she wants to have one of her guy friends in the wedding because it is something that is unexpected.

There isn’t a formal rule that states all bridesmaids must be female, and we checked with etiquette guru, Emily Post, on that.  We suggest a few things when it comes to having a male bridesmaid.  You want to make sure the male friend feels comfortable standing up with the gals in your life. (Click “read more” to continue.) If you think he feels a bit awkward, ask your fiancé about allowing your male friend to stand on his side.  Or, have all the bridesmaids and groomsmen stand as couples and pair him up with a bridesmaid.

If he does feel comfortable being the solo man on your side, he should wear the same tux or suit as the groomsmen.  To make him stand out as one of the special people in your life verses the groom’s life, you can alter his boutonniere to match the colors/style of the bridesmaid’s bouquets.

It’s always fun to have a little twist in your ceremony that makes it special for you.  The guests walk away remembering these details and your male friend will feel very special knowing he was important enough to be a part of your special day!”

One Response to “Male Bridesmaid: Yay or Nay?”

  • Tracey | February 23, 2011 | Reply

    I remember after our engagement, my now hubs and I sat down and thought about who we wanted in the ceremony… and after a bit of discussion, it dawned on us that one of my besties was a boy and one of his besties was a girl… so when we all stood at the alter (from left to right) the Brides man, 3 Bridesmaids, Us, 3 Groomsmen, and the Grooms woman. We couldn’t imagine it any other way… everyone was touched and comfortable… and I’d tell all brides/grooms to do whatever you want!!!!!!