by Ryan Conner
Karley Osborn is a bride-to-be living in Plano. Her fiancé proposed in March. They’re getting married in July. No, she’s not crazy, and yes, she’s confident she will be able to order a dress and have it triple-fitted in plenty of time — no matter what the experts have to say about it. Karley also happened to intern for D Magazine and work as a social reporter with People Newspapers. Every Wednesday, she’ll be documenting her planning process. From flowers to fittings, she will use her first-hand experience to help other brides in the event of a last-minute love affair.
To date, we’ve talked wedding dresses. We’ve talked engagement photos. We’ve talked total floral overload, list making, venue booking, Bridezilla behavior, and all things wedding paperie. Now, 53 days into my engagement, it’s time to talk about the biggest asset of any bride scrambling to pull off a rush-order wedding.
That would be her Pinterest board.
Kidding. That would be the bride’s hero; her knight-in-shining-armor; her personal version of Taylor Swift’s over-lyricized Prince Charming. We’re talking about her (or specifically, my) ever-patient, ever-affirming Fiancé, of course.
In general, Fiancés don’t like to sit through two-hour appointments with florists, tend to stare blankly when you discuss the respective merits of invitations printed on matte cardstock versus pearlescent paper, and are ambivalent about serving guests a sit-down dinner or sending them through a buffet line as long as there’s plenty of food (and they’re guaranteed a to-go box at the end of the reception). The good news: It’s not that Fiancé’s don’t care—it’s just that they love us, not the table linens we’ve selected.
And you know what? The further I get into this “hitched in a hurry” thing with my fiancé, the more I appreciate his perspective. Scratch that—the more I appreciate him. He’s the one holding my hand until a pesky bout of the “minor details” passes. He’s the one listening to me read through menu selections for the fourth time in a row. He’s the one telling me I can’t get it wrong, no matter what decision I make about the paper-weight of our invitations…or anything else, for that matter. So, in honor of that, I thought I’d slow down this sprint and put some serious thought into ways I can celebrate HIM on The Big Day, and every day leading up to it—of which we have 94. (Bonus: In the process, I’m saving loads of time and ditching lots of stress. I’d call that win-win.)
Jump for my list.
1. I’m sharing jobs with him, and actually letting him do them.
Top things he probably wouldn’t mind being in charge of (PS: TLC agrees with me):
- *Reception music (either compiling a playlist or making a list of preferred songs for the band/DJ)
- Alcohol (how much, what kind)
- Get-away car (securing a chartered vehicle or booking a rental)
- Honeymoon (booking room(s), finding flight(s), generally smiling a lot about the prospect of chilling out on a beach somewhere without a single mention of flowers, cakes, etc.)
*Note to self: If you’re going to delegate, delegate. Don’t throw out a “Baby, why don’t you choose the songs for our reception?” and then renege when he starts compiling a list that consists primarily of Bob Marley and Pearl Jam, without even one romantic swoon-tune by Michael Buble. It’s going to be okay.
2. I’m incorporating a ritual into our wedding ceremony that is distinctly “him.”
If you read the first-ever “Hitched in a Hurry” column, then you know all about our backstory. As a refresher course, Fiancé and I wrote to each other for six (longggg) months before ever letting on how we felt about one another. The funniest part of this is that Fiancé loathes writing. Like, loathes. But he did it anyway, for me. So in lieu of lighting a unity candle (too risky at the beach) or pouring multi-colored sand into a jar (I just….can’t), I’m going to be brainstorming symbolic ways to incorporate letter-writing into our ceremony. This idea seems to be a good place to start.
3. I’m personalizing his wedding band.
You know how we girls + all of our moms, grandmothers, aunts, girlfriends, etc. let out squeals of excitement whenever a brand new engagement ring is flashed? Our men probably won’t do that when we slip a wedding band on their hand, no matter what lengths we take to customize it. But still—for many Fiancés (mine included), this will be the first piece of jewelry he’ll wear on a daily basis. So, some cool ideas to make it feel like “him”:
- Inscribe the inside of his band with a date, phrase, or Bible verse that holds significance for the two of you. This Etsy shop is full of unique styles.
- Make his ring completely impossible to reproduce by incorporating his/your fingerprint(s) into the band’s design. Check out this Etsy shop for cool design options.
- *Use a piece of your jewelry to create his band.
*Note: I went with this option. When I was 13, my parents gave me a promise ring. The band was made from sterling silver, and there was a 14-carat gold heart in the center. From the time I was a little girl, I knew I wanted to use that ring to create my future husband’s wedding band. Fiancé recently selected his ring—it’s thick and heavy, and made from brushed white gold. Well, mostly white gold. Because at the top, there’s a sliver of shiny yellow gold made from the melted center of my long-treasured ring. Meaning that on July 27, my heart—both figuratively and literally, now—will be his.
Forgive the cheesiness, but…that’s the whole heart (couldn’t resist) behind this last-minute love affair.