by Ryan Conner
Karley Osborn is a bride-to-be living in Plano. Her fiancé proposed in March. They’re getting married in July. No, she’s not crazy, and yes, she’s confident she will be able to order a dress and have it triple-fitted in plenty of time — no matter what the experts have to say about it. Karley also happened to intern for D Magazine and work as a social reporter with People Newspapers. Every Wednesday, she’ll be documenting her planning process. From flowers to fittings, she will use her first-hand experience to help other brides in the event of a last-minute love affair.
As of today, Fiancé and I have 58 days of engagement left to accomplish everything on our to-do-before-I-do list. Since—believe it or not—we have yet to place our flower order (yes, I know, we seriously need to get it together), still need to determine table decor, and there’s nary a confirmed reception menu in sight, you might imagine that we’re losing our minds.
If not for Fiancé’s support, you’d be half right. Without him, I’m pretty sure I’d be a basket case; a wreck with a capital W. Visual example: Our reception tables would be draped in bed linens instead of tablecloths because I would have completely lost the ability to make a normal, coherent decision. Thankfully, he’s been an island of stability throughout our speedy planning process, and—by taking daily doses of his perspective—I’ve managed to come out okay, too.
That being said—and, you know, on the off-chance that there are other brides out there in desperate need of an extra shot of sanity—I thought I’d let him take the wheel of this column. Due to time constraints (I repeat, 58 days!!), this will be the final Hitched in a Hurry column until Fiancé and I become an official married couple. After that, we promise to give you a recap detailing how everything turned out (Was the DJ you randomly booked a hit or a miss? What did Fiancé think of your supersaver dress? Did you ever get it together and order flowers, or were your reception tables the most boring things ever, not to mention covered in fitted sheets?).
Until then, and without further ado, I present to you the innermost ponderings of my very wise (and extraordinarily handsome) fiancé. You can read them after the jump.
“From day one, I knew I wanted to marry Karley. I just didn’t think there was any chance. When I found out she felt the same way, I knew I had to tell her. I wasn’t going to wait any longer for her to be snatched up by somebody else or change her mind (Karley’s note: As if). I was clear about this from the start, with no false pretenses. So we both went into dating knowing that we wanted to marry each other from the very beginning.
In one weekend I flew into Dallas and went in for the kill, and our “hitched in a hurry” was off to the races. And although we had talked a lot about marriage, we didn’t ever really discuss what all went into wedding planning. I just thought that you asked somebody to marry them, and then you got married (Karley’s note: HAHA). Only after she said yes did Karley unveil all the shenanigans that go along with it. I now realize that when people talk about needing emotional support during the wedding planning process, they’re really not joking around.
I’ve got to be honest—I feel like my fiancé stayed pretty grounded in regard to what was important, and took a practical approach to planning our wedding. But it was kind of disturbing to see how easy it can be for the true meaning of marriage—celebrating two lives becoming one alongside friends and family—to be drowned out by all the pomp and circumstance. The ceremony can easily become a worship service of material things. One almost-example from our own experience: When Karley and I were trying to decide whether or not we should order custom stamps for our wedding invitations that had our faces printed them (Karley’s note: Yeah…in retrospect, that would have been a bit excessive).
Something else that’s crazy: On day one of our engagement, Karley opened up a wedding magazine and found a planning guide inside that extended over a year and a half time period. I get that everybody wants their wedding to be perfect, and that the planning process takes some time. But is it worth forfeiting time that can be spent being married to someone just to plan out extra details? For Karley and I, the answer was no—so we went with an engagement length that seemed manageable, yet socially responsible (albeit just on the edge of it). Although our total engagement will be just a little over four months, it still has felt extremely long. Quite honestly, I think it could have been done even quicker—although the stress levels may have been too high for the kind of ceremony we ended up planning.
I guess the message that I’m trying to convey is this: To any couples out there wondering “Why does our engagement have to be X amount of time?”, the answer is that it doesn’t. Your wedding will ultimately reflect who you are as a couple. If you want to be married quickly, there’s absolutely no reason why it can’t happen. You may get some crazy looks and a lot of questions, but don’t let that stop you from being true to who you are as a couple and going for it.”
“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
Pure and simple, that’s the manifesto of every Hitched in a Hurry pair. As for this duo, we’ll see you after the altar!