D Weddings celebrates unions of couples of all races, faiths, cultures, and orientations. To celebrate Pride Month, we’re catching up with a few couples from our favorite LGBTQ+ weddings from over the years. Lacy Montgomery and Maggie Watson planned to tie the knot on October 4, 2020, in Cape Cod, Massachusetts, where Maggie grew up visiting her grandparents. When the Covid pandemic waylaid those plans, they decided on a whim to make it official that day anyway, exchanging vows in a spontaneous courthouse ceremony. The couple catches us up on what they’ve been up to since that special day—and what married life has meant to them.
How long have you been married?
Two-and-a-half years.
Did you guys end up having a Cape Cod celebration as you’d originally planned?
We sure did! And it was simply magical, surrounded by more love and affirmation and fun than we ever could have dreamed! We got married in Chatham, Massachusetts, at Chatham Bars Inn with all of our best people.
How has life changed since getting married?
Well for one, we have a 1-year-old baby boy named Watson who fills our lives with laughter and beautiful messiness. Besides becoming parents, not a whole lot has changed. I guess we go to bed a little earlier now. And we’re more and more comfortable with each other.
How is it the same?
We still love to cook and eat and generally just hang out with each other and our family and friends.
What has being married meant to you?
Sharing every little bit of it. Of life. Vulnerable and hard and fun and beautiful. It means we get to lean on each other no matter what. We’re a team. And we have each other’s backs and love each other completely.
What would you tell your younger self about the life she’d one day have?
You cannot possibly imagine the beauty of the love and the life that is ahead of you. You are so lovable and worthy. Look for the shimmery glimpses of goodness and believe in it! You get to find your light at the end of the tunnel. It’s there. She’s there. And you don’t have to settle. Also, it’s okay to order Blue Apron when you run out of dinner ideas. You do, in fact, have to choose every meal for the rest of your life.
What marriage advice do you have for other couples? Anything specific you’d want to say to other same-sex couples starting out on their marriage journey?
Keep showing up and doing the best you can. And assume that your spouse is doing the same. Assume the best. And communicate. Marriage isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. But it sure is worth it.
For same sex couples, we aren’t that different. Most humans really are good inside and they’re probably not as judgmental as you think they are. Trust yourself and the people who love you. And live your life and your love out loud. You never know who you’re inspiring. Who you’re giving permission to.
